Our thoughts

Book Buddies

Posted Mon 10 Feb 2014

I’m sure all of us have read something in the news and have had that “Aww that’s so cute moment”. Well ….. I have just had one of those moments. Many of you know about my love of cats and this really made me smile.


Time stands still

Posted Sun 09 Feb 2014

Every week for 30 years Dr John Farrer would climb the narrow stone spiralled staircase at St James’ Church, Clapham, North Yorkshire to wind up the church clock. When he died at home aged 92 years on New Years Day, the church clock stopped at exactly the same time 8.15 a.m.


Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide

Posted Mon 20 Jan 2014

Every death is an emotional roller coaster for the family and friends left behind, but just for a moment imagine the heartache and devastation when the person who has died has taken their own life. The storyline in the news this week has been the death of Hayley from Coronation Street who, after battling cancer decides to end her life. This will no doubt re-ignite the rights and wrongs of ending a life when facing such a terminal illness. But what when the death of someone you love, comes totally out of the blue with no explanation or reason why.


What should I say to the bereaved?

Posted Sat 18 Jan 2014

Knowing what to say to a person who is grieving following the death of someone close, can be quite a challenge. The fear of someone bursting into tears makes many people “cross over the road”, or they even avoid the subject altogether and act as if nothing has happened. In trying to help the bereaved, we must be careful that we don’t become well intentioned or misguided helpers, by suggesting to the bereaved person that there is a right way to grieve – There isn’t. The only way to grieve, is their way, and in their own time.


All is well

Posted Sun 12 Jan 2014

Death is nothing at all I have only slipped away to the next room I am I and you are you Whatever we were to each other That, we still are.


New Year 2014

Posted Tue 31 Dec 2013

As we approach the end of 2013, for many of you, it has been a difficult and life changing year. We have guided and held the hands of many families, and hopefully have made a very traumatic time, just a little easier to bear. For some of you, the first of everything will have passed, and for other’s it is only just beginning.